> The dinner story was interesting. It sounds like it went well for
> you. I could feel the pit in my own stomach while you were awaiting
> her arrival. Thinking about someone who broke up with me, and hurt
> me very badly, I think I can relate. Kudos to you, I don’t think I
> could have done it. She sounds like she may be regretting some
> things. You should feel good about the fact that you have moved on
> AND UP in your life. Maybe she hasn’t been able to do that in her
> three years alone. I have admired your ability to continue your life
> despite the loss. Unfortunately, that is the one thing I failed to
> do, and continue to struggle with each day. Certainly my
> circumstances are different, but I have let my feelings of loss,
> anger, and regret consume my life. You are a good role model for me!
>
A role model, eh? Never thought I’d be a role model, but I’m flattered!

Anne — the good news is this — it’s NEVER TOO LATE to begin/continue the healing process. Even though it may have been a while ago that you had a loss, and just as those feelings are within you every day, they CAN BE HEALED.

Now, that being said, how to proceed? Before you read on, please understand that I take a *behaviorist* methodology when approaching healing of the heart. This may not work for you (in fact, it’s been a considerable failure for my housemate. His path is completely different).

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